Frequently asked questions:

• Would you like to give a talk/tutorial at my workshop/conference/department/lab?
  
  Inclusion Rider: In general, I am honored to be invited to give talks, and especially enjoy meeting new people and discussing research. I am, however, unwilling to do so in a way that contributes to the further marginalization of womxn and gender minorities, people of color of all genders, people with disabilities, and other amazing members of our disciplines whose voices are often drowned out.
  
  For instance, I decline invitations for: events with all male organizers; workshops/panels with non-diverse speakers/panelists; talk series whose past speakers are non-diverse. But I will also try to assist. If you invite me and I decline, I will provide a list of alternate invitees you might consider (adapted for the topic of interest); or you can just email me for suggestions. Also check out the WiML Directory, the Black in AI workshop, and the Widening NLP Spotlights.
  
  This won't necessarily solve everything, and making process here is hard: I think it's important to keep in mind that service overload is a real thing for members of underrepresented groups, and we all need to find a way to balance priorities and what they ask for.
  
  I'd like us, as a community, to get to the point where having such "rules" is unnecessary, in which all researchers are valued equally for their contributions, and hopefully we can get there. I am partly taking a firm stance here because I am guilty in the past of not paying enough attention to these issues, and have organized my share of, e.g., all-male panels; I believe we can make the most progress when we all hold each other accountable. I'm writing this in part to hold myself accountable. If you're trying to find other ways to help, please consider the list of suggestions from Kathryn McKinley on ACM SIGARCH.
• What's with your name?
  
  My family name, "Daumé" has an acute accent which changes the height of the vowel, from [ə] ("eh") to [e] ("ay" as in "ma